We only know what we know, when we know it. And as we learn, it seems to me that what is important is to acknowledge the mistakes we've made in the past, the errors and assumptions we now know were incorrect. Hindsight is 20/20. Foresight is like wearing blinders.
After we had the dedication ceremony in May, and I posted about it here, I was contacted and thus learned that a whole side of Michael Mead's family was unaware of the ceremony, and are very hurt that they were not informed, not included, not allowed to be a part of this event they above all others should have been at, had a right to be at, and really, was for. This plagues me to no end to know that I hurt people I have never met, and certainly did not want to hurt - quite the opposite, in fact.
So take this as an open apology to the Wiktorek and Ferrick families (and all the others I still don't know about) - I am deeply sorry you were not included in this, and I will do everything I can to make it as right as it can be, from what has been.
And, maybe showing my naiveness and foolish optimism, let this serve as an open invitation to have another ceremony, another celebration, for why should there be just one? Why not show it off again, inhabit the realization of an idea once more, bring together another beautiful group of people who want to revel in the beauty of a complete and ambitious thought, and lean on each other in the deep pain of a loss undulled by time. I understand if you, Wiktoreks and Ferricks, don't want to, if it seems forced or contrived, or in any other way seems too little too late. But, to me, it is worth pushing for, worth doing, worth trying to make up for errors of the past, however unintended. All we can do is put ourselves out there and be genuine and hope that others are in a place to receive it. So that is what I aim to do here, now.
All we know is what we know, when we know it. And I know that what we have done so far is not enough.